I'm very similar to you in that way, so, there were times in the beginning when I used to feel quite hurt or upset in my friendships because I was judging their behaviour by my own standards, and how my female friends would act.
This friend I mentioned, he's a lovely, really sweet guy and we've been friends since we started out as graduate trainees together fresh out of university and through his particularly nasty divorce (he has terrible taste in women!) The number of times we've sat there discussing relationships and we're good friends.
But he's terrible at staying in contact, it's almost a joke how unreliable he is. In the beginning of our friendship I would be speaking to him every day for hours, and then he'd suddenly disappear and when he turned up again he'd be surprised as to why I was being cold and distant with him. It honestly didn't occur to him that he needed to stay in touch or let me know he was still alive!
When my Dad died he vanished for about a year, and when I finally saw him, I said 'You didn't call or text and ask me if I was ok' and he said 'Well, I didn't know what to say but I thought you'd call me if you needed me'.
Then I realised that he was like that with all his male friends and it didn't mean he didn't care, it was just normal friendship behaviour for him. He was looking at our friendship from a male perspective, I was looking at it from a female perspective and no wonder we had different expectations!